I didn't respect my partners enough to treat them like they were my partners. I didn't care enough about my relationships to not risk ruining them. Here's what I came to realize: everything had to do with the tepid feelings I had for the people I was dating. I questioned why I never really felt guilty, either. Instead, I was forced to question what was so wrong with me that I felt compelled to cheat. In this ideal world, my SO would understand my need to be free. My ideal situation was to have my partner wait for me at home while I was off kissing strangers in sketchy dive bars. In my bizarre and dreadfully muddled dating history, I was the glutton who wanted to have her cake and eat it, too. Sa Nnth Cng Kir Cakr / EyeEm/EyeEm/Getty Images Susan Edelman, board-certified psychiatrist and author of Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women, previously told Elite Daily, "There are many psychological reasons why a person has the urge to cheat, but the best explanation is one that Bill Clinton used in explaining his affair with Monica Lewinsky. I believe that my past urge to cheat comes from never really wanting to commit to a relationship - but still selfishly wanting all the benefits of having one.
I should probably note I'm not a saint when it comes to relationships. However, infidelity may just be an indication that things should have ended long ago. Of course, some relationships can survive this kind of indiscretion and even potentially become stronger for it. I know people "make mistakes." I know we're "all human." But simply put, straying isn't something you do when you respect and care for your partner, and if you cheat on someone, then you don't love that person. If you are unfaithful, you are not in love. It was one of 22 films at the festival that had their New York State premiere, or their East Coast premiere, at ImageOut.If you cheat on someone you're dating, you don't love that person.
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We saw the movie at the excellent Little Theatre, as part of ImageOut, the wonderful Rochester LGBT Film Festival. It's not great, but it's good enough to find and watch. Still, HIV isn't a happy topic, and the movie isn't a happy movie. The conversations, although very sad, appeared to be genuine. People didn't appear to be playing to the camera. I had the sense that the documentary was very real. There are endless discussions about his HIV status, and whether or not it's safe for his nephews and nieces to be near him. When he's in Israeli, his life isn't quiet and peaceful. His great pleasure comes from being a member of the London Gay Men's Chorus. When Saar's in London, he lives a quiet and peaceful life. His father isn't reconciled to the fact that his son is gay, and the rest of the family accept that he's gay, but they can't reconcile the fact that he "wasn't more careful," which allowed him to be infected with HIV. Saar's biggest visible problem is his interaction with his family. He's HIV positive, but medication keeps him in overall good health. The film follows Saar, an Israeli man who now lives in London.
Who's Gonna Love Me Now? (2016) is an Israeli/English documentary, directed by Barak Heymann and Tomer Heymann.